Marriage

 

It dates back to year 2013 when I got married.  Marriage came as a huge shock in my life.  It changed so many things, my place of living, where I had spent good 30 years of my life, my job of 4 years.  Over all these years I had dedicated places for looking after my wardrobe, daily needs and beauty requirement almost anything you can imagine.  Leaving all behind I had to move to a different city.  On the top of it even after almost a year of courtship I never felt much familiar with my then fiancé (now husband).

It was very tough for me to adjust in a joint family. Having lived a very independent life before, I wasn’t accustomed to such a family setup. There was dominance and ego tussles. Time went by; I was living almost a lost life. A weak bond with husband, our marriage started showing signs of detachment. 

Well so is life, gradually with much perseverance of my husband and willingness on my part eventually things started falling into the right place. And now there is happiness, moments of sadness, care, share, faith, love, oneness and commitment.  

I really feel strange when people ridicule the institution of marriage. I really abhor cheap jokes taunted at married couples. Though some are light hearted and funny enough but some are too insulting.  I find marriage is something really sacred and pious.  The partners complete each other. Yes, there are moments of frustration and stress, there is much dissimilarity of attitudes but you have to find a way out. You have to make peace and it is possible only when both sides are willing.  Continuous nudging, poking and nagging each other will never help.  Acceptance, communication and love will make this bond strong. Couples need to have very realistic expectations from each other and never let ego come in between. 

And as per the old saying

Never marry for looks as they may be deceptive,

Never marry for wealth as it is perishable,

Never marry just for sake of it as life will crumble,

Marry only when you are willing to commit yourself to a roller coaster life full of many mixed emotions like love, togetherness, intimacy, lowness, sadness, friendship, worry, anxiety and affection.

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Overcoming Fear and Worries

Fears and worries are something that eats up half of our happiness.  Most of the time, they are like unnecessary strain on our imagination. Of lately I feel I am getting infected with these negative emotions. I fear and worry a lot. And mostly or rather all the times they are out of my own thought process and nothing grave actually.

Things I excessively worry and fear about:

Fear of suffering or disease in a family member

Fear of accident if any family member is traveling out of city

Fear of loneliness or some strange feeling of insecurity

Fear of losing loved ones
Fear that some calamity is about to befall in my life.

I know we all have these concerns for loved ones but in my case I very easily jump to negative conclusions. I feel these emotions with very high level of anxiety, resulting in stress and a deep melancholic look on my face. No matter how hard I try to get over these troublesome sentiments, ultimately I land myself there knowingly or unknowingly.  

Even slightest of turbulence in daily life gets over me like a storm.

Amidst all this unstable state of mine I am searching for a respite and I believe that it lies within me. I need to grow myself with values of trust and faith. ‘Confidence’ is something I have always lacked. I very well know my shortcomings and the remedy, just need to take the right dose at the right time. The right dose is to be positive and right time is now. 

‘Hope I am able to practice it on regular basis and come out of my pessimistic world.’

God has given all of us some rainy days, some rainbows and abundant of sunshine. Never lose courage and strength during tough times and cherish the happy moments with smiles and laughters.

Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight. - Benjamin Franklin

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Gratitude

My loving parents, the pillar of strength

My dearest husband all promises and warmth

My adoring siblings, all hugs and care

These precious people all blessings and prayers

The grace above and the days of love

The pains and suffering my destiny unfolds

The calmness and peace my wound beholds

The protection and safety from the barren fields

To sooth the burns and mend the loss

I have my Lord to grace my life

No words of gratitude are complete enough

For I close my eyes in a deepest thought

To never let immoral cross my heart

To uphold the values and purest believes

To serve humanity is my service extreme.

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Soft Drink - Dangers

Soft drink, cold drink or energy drink by whatever name you call it, is neither too soft on health nor it is a energy booster. It is actually something which can drain the entire human system of essential nutrients, so completely devoid of energy quotient. 

Some side effects of soft drinks:

It can trigger Asthma, Skin allergies.

It can cause Kidney stones and many Renal issues.

It can destroy Tooth enamel.

It is associated with elevated risk of Diabetes and Heart problems.

It is potentially harmful for Endocrine system (can cause thyroid problems, premature puberty and issues with conceiving).

It causes ‘Obesity’, the biggest menace.

It is associated with increased risk of Osteoporosis (Bone damage).

These soft drinks which come in different flavors are very addictive to the taste buds, you get some instant boost and feeling of well being, but it is temporary, otherwise the entire metabolism goes haywire after just a glass of soft drinks.

Mother nature has given us so many beneficial natural drinks for different seasons like ‘Bel sharbat’, ‘Amm Panna’, ‘Lassi’, ‘Kokam Sharbat’ for summers, ‘Kanji’, ‘Saffron and Apricot Milk’ in winters, like wise different shakes can be prepared as per availability of seasonal fruits. A simple combination of Honey and lemon in water is a great energy booster. 

Why not try these very healthy options in spite of these soft drinks or canned juices?

In my opinion these products which are causing much potential harm to the metabolic system and damaging our health should be completely banned but to the contrary I find youth icons, celebrities promoting these products. Well nobody can stop them they are earning their livelihood out of such brand endorsement. But on our part we can work to spread awareness starting from our own families gradually we can share our concern with our friends, social circle, readers and so on.

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