The Beautiful Bond

Some unspoken words

Some silent whispers

Some caring glances

Some subtle touches

Some and more of love entail our relation

Those eyes which speak of million promises

That heart which beats with thy name

Souls which thou bond with Ram’s blessings

For no force the strongest can break the union.

Karwa Chauth is a festival of love and emotions.  It celebrates bond of respect between husband and wife. Renewing vows of love and companionship is the real essence of this fasting. I have seen couples fasting as well as holding grudges with each other. Expressing love is the real spirit of this festival. No prayer holds importance with any malice in heart. Celebrating fast out of fear that something untoward will happen to your husband does not make any sense. If you want to do it then most important is faith in lord and love in heart. Fear should not hold any place in your life.

The real reason or significance of celebrating should be to promote values, love and respect to nurture the family bond. Seeing the present scenario more is the show off and added stress. The real significance is diminishing. There is always added tussle between generations. The older is not able to bend and newer is sometimes not able to adapt, creating a lot of friction. Both need to understand the real value of customs and traditions and move together. 

"Happy Karwa Chauth Friends"

Marriage

 

It dates back to year 2013 when I got married.  Marriage came as a huge shock in my life.  It changed so many things, my place of living, where I had spent good 30 years of my life, my job of 4 years.  Over all these years I had dedicated places for looking after my wardrobe, daily needs and beauty requirement almost anything you can imagine.  Leaving all behind I had to move to a different city.  On the top of it even after almost a year of courtship I never felt much familiar with my then fiancé (now husband).

It was very tough for me to adjust in a joint family. Having lived a very independent life before, I wasn’t accustomed to such a family setup. There was dominance and ego tussles. Time went by; I was living almost a lost life. A weak bond with husband, our marriage started showing signs of detachment. 

Well so is life, gradually with much perseverance of my husband and willingness on my part eventually things started falling into the right place. And now there is happiness, moments of sadness, care, share, faith, love, oneness and commitment.  

I really feel strange when people ridicule the institution of marriage. I really abhor cheap jokes taunted at married couples. Though some are light hearted and funny enough but some are too insulting.  I find marriage is something really sacred and pious.  The partners complete each other. Yes, there are moments of frustration and stress, there is much dissimilarity of attitudes but you have to find a way out. You have to make peace and it is possible only when both sides are willing.  Continuous nudging, poking and nagging each other will never help.  Acceptance, communication and love will make this bond strong. Couples need to have very realistic expectations from each other and never let ego come in between. 

And as per the old saying

Never marry for looks as they may be deceptive,

Never marry for wealth as it is perishable,

Never marry just for sake of it as life will crumble,

Marry only when you are willing to commit yourself to a roller coaster life full of many mixed emotions like love, togetherness, intimacy, lowness, sadness, friendship, worry, anxiety and affection.

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