Parenthood is a sacred thread. The bond so unconditional
that can melt even the hardest of hearts. To nourish your progeny inside you
and see it grow, twinkle and flourish is an unmatched phenomenon. These are the
promises of pure love. But yes, not all couples are lucky enough. What all I
have read about and see around me the rates of people facing fertility issues
is rising rapidly. Late marriages, career goals, stressful life style
eventually advanced age (tickling biological clock) can be called the main
culprit.
Still, hope is rekindled thanks to advanced medical
science and new improved reproductive techniques and even the available options
of Surrogacy.
A
surrogacy arrangement or surrogacy agreement is the carrying of a
pregnancy for intended parents. There are two main types of surrogacy, gestational surrogacy (also known as
host or full surrogacy). Here, the pregnancy results from the transfer of an
embryo created by in vitro
fertilization (IVF), in a manner so the resulting child is genetically
unrelated to the surrogate. In traditional
surrogacy (also known as partial, genetic, or straight surrogacy), the
surrogate is impregnated naturally or artificially, and the resulting child is
genetically related to the surrogate. (Source – Here).
With reference to the latest news regarding Tusshar
Kapoor becoming a single father through Surrogacy, clearly shows how advanced
our society has become. It’s good, kudos to the courage of Mr Kapoor. But I have
some reservations regarding this thing. I saw media highly appreciative of Mr
Kapoor’s thought process. Its fine, this is his personal choice. But, doesn’t a child need both parents,
Mother and Father? If he was so yearning to have a child he should have
married and then gone for such procedures. Or if marriage is not his choice he
should have looked out for adoption possibilities as a single male parent.
Shouldn’t laws governing surrogacy be more well
defined? No doubt surrogacy is a
commendable job as it gives light and hope to couples struggling with fertility
issues but shouldn’t be laws more stringent so that no one dares to take it for
granted. Should it be allowed to single person (male or female)? Is it good to commercialize surrogacy?
I am not at all against surrogacy, it is admirable and
praiseworthy but it should be reserved
only for couples who actually face reproductive problems. By no means it
should become a trend.
The views expressed here is my personal outlook, to which
some may agree and some may disagree.
Requesting your point of view. Do comment.
Everything that you see around has got reduced. There was, I have read, where people cared being around with other people. And they called them society. I guess the same society now doesn't want to stay in a large community and hence nuclear family. And my god Tussar has given an example of single family. But I see nothing wrong in that. One must not need an opposite sex to get the love of his\er child provide s/he is able to give sufficient enough of love and care.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, there is some sort of reduction, but still I don't agree with the concept as I have already written in my post.
DeleteI agree with you, Swati. I feel sorry about that kid of Tusshar Kapoor who won't be able to know about his mother ever :(
ReplyDeleteExactly Purba.No one can ever take place of your mother.
DeleteThe concept of family is being redefined.
ReplyDeleteYes, it is being redefined, but it may cause a lot of upheaval.
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ReplyDeleteHm. I agree with you. Surrogacy should be a redeeming thing not used as a option for luxury. Wonder what Mr. Kapoor would say to the child when he/she asks for his/her mother.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate what you've written here Swati.
Thanks Anupam. If proper checks are not imposed, people will do start using it as a luxury.
DeleteFeeling sorry for that kid. What would Tusshar say when the child inquires about his mom. :(
ReplyDeleteYes Maitreni. Everyone is happy the real misery is for the kid
DeleteI think to each their own. I mean the world is full of single parents either thru divorce or widowed and they are all doing their best in raising their children, and we are appreciative of the same. At the same time, there are so called families with a mother and a father, but who end up neglecting the child (workaholics, drug abusers etc). So it's all relative. It simply boils down to the fact, how each one of us as seperate individuals raise our child in a responsible way and in a nurturing environment.
ReplyDeleteYou are right by saying this that many kids are bought up single - handedly but they are by chance not choice. Opting for Surrogacy like thing to have a child as a single parent will disturb the fabric. People will misuse this entity.
DeleteYou are right, a child needs both his parents. I guess people always use science to their advantage. They don't think what will happen 20 years down the lane. If they want something, they get it using technology.
ReplyDeleteThese are the side effects of technological advancement. We easily get used to it and then starts the misuse.
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