Being Married

They say marriages are made in heaven……………….

“Two separate lives, comes and unite

To walk together the aisles of life

Myriad hues of this lovely bond

Makes them glow with this deal so strong

Good and Bad times come and goes

The charm resides, with love inside”

Marriage is always considered ‘the most’ sacred social custom in our society. The parents of prospective brides and grooms, associates it with their personal pride and prestige. Though it is a relationship of lifetime, whether it’s a love or an arranged marriage, but sad to say that still it is associated with lots of stigma in our advanced, educated society; honor killings in the name of caste & religion , marriage outside caste, dowry demands, lots of pressure on bride’s family to splurge hefty amounts on gifts for grooms family, social status, symbol etc.

People have molded the traditions as per their needs, whims and fancies. Cocktail parties, grand reception, quick pheras, super quick mantras have taken the place of divine traditions.

Getting dim is the holy belief, and so getting much dimmer is this bond which is made in heaven. Feelings have commercialized.

No marriage is a good or bad; it becomes what we want it to be, a happy one or a sad one, it’s in our hands.

Putting the baggage of divorce for the rarest of the rare conditions, for ones let’s become selfless, let’s hold the hand and look into the eyes forgetting work stress, kitchen chores. Let friendship dwell and pain depart…..

Never marry for money – it may come and go.

Never marry for looks - it is superficial & can vanish.

Never marry just for sake of it – will lead you no where.

Get married for friendship and love, it will stay forever.

And even if you feel out of love, still irrigate your feelings, and harvest love. Keep hopes alive and sail your boat with conviction strong.

From my own personal experience marriage has given me a lot of security, its nothing to do with money or any materialistic aspect; it’s just an emotional security to rely upon during darker nights and is all that everyone needs.

On its own pace it’s taking away the anger and resting upon me sublime patience. In our two years of married life we have fought - made peace and it has become like a cyclical activity.

We have seen lots of hard times, which almost pulled us apart but what keeps us going is some love, some care, some positive thoughts, some desires, some natural phenomenon created and conspired in the heaven by the God’s themselves.